Does your marriage feel different lately?
That's okay. You've come to the right place. First, let's get clear on exactly where you are. Then we'll apply a rhythm that helps you move together toward the marriage you want.
Coaching, workbooks and experiences from Shelly & Jason. Coaching, not therapy. Nothing you tap here is saved.
What's really going on
Marriages rarely change in one big moment. They drift a little at a time, while life keeps everyone busy. And nobody hands you a map. So you're left wondering: is this normal? Is it me? Is it us?
It's an ordinary place to be, not a failing grade. Every marriage moves through seasons, and once you can name yours, you know what to do next.
Your guides
You don't haveto guess alone.
A few months before our wedding, we sat down over breakfast at a local Denny's and walked through what we'd now call a genogram. We got clear on our pasts and intentional about our future, and we've been creating our marriage on purpose ever since.
It hasn't been easy. We're no strangers to the dark seasons, but we've kept choosing each other, one small rhythm at a time. We've also always wanted to serve, so in our first couple of years of marriage we were already leading small groups for couples, eager to help. All these years later, we still are.
What we teach is what we've had to live, rooted in faith and informed by trauma and neuroscience, choice theory and the Gottman Method. Our conviction: awareness comes first. Once you can see your season and stop arguing with it, you can change the rhythms that built it. Coaching, not therapy.
And yes, we're the very enthusiastic parents of two whimsical daughters.
- Married since 2007
- Decades of helping couples
- Shelly: licensed clinical social worker
- Jason: pastor and coach for decades
- 20,000+ followers
- 7 million weekly views
Shelly & Jason
Ways to work with us
Start where you are.Go as deep as you like.
The best place to begin is the free assessment. After that, you choose how much company you'd like.
Find your season
Not sure where you are? Start here.
Thirty-six questions, about ten minutes. You get your season and a guide written for it, whether or not your spouse joins.
Find your season →
Workbooks and the journal
When you'd like to work on it in your own time.
A six-week workbook written for your season: one conversation a week, on screen or printed. Or the New Rhythm Journal, if you're starting on your own.
Your season's workbook is matched to your results.
Coaching with us
When you want Shelly and Jason alongside you.
Our next small cohort is being planned: six live CONNECT Nights online with both of us, in a capped room. Or private coaching by application, for couples and for individuals working on a marriage alone.
Invitations go first to people already working through a workbook.
Bring this to your group.
A group QR code lets a whole room take the assessment together, and a free Group Night kit is on the way. Tell us about your group and we'll be in touch.
The four seasons
Four seasons.Which sounds like you?
A season is what's happening right now, not a grade. Each one comes with a rhythm: one practice to start with.
Steadiness
Stable and mostly secure. Protect what works before drift sets in.
Stretching
Stress is leaking in. Name it, clarify what each of you needs, and come back to a shared direction.
Distance
Teammates more than partners. Small, steady turns back toward each other add up.
Healing
Trust feels thinner. Rebuild safety and choose repair over defending.
Picture it
A week that feelslike yours again.
- Talking about more than logistics.
- Knowing what to do when a hard week comes.
- Feeling like partners, not roommates.
Left unnamed, drift quietly becomes normal. Named, it's something you can work with.
Find out whereyou are today.
Ten minutes. Free. And it's a starting point, not a verdict.
Find your season →